The Triple A Survival Guide for Emotions User Guide

Emotions Software: User Guide

Additional User Guide, Tips & Techniques

What is Personal Growth?
Personal Growth is:
1. ...... when you can listen inside while you experience everyone else talking.
2. ..... when you can listen outside
while you experience yourself talking.
3. ..... when you can feel courage while you experience fear.
4. ..... when you can be patient
while you experience impatience.
5. ..... when you can forgive while you experience injustice and hurt.
6. ..... when you can breathe consciously while you experience pressure, panic, or pain.
7. .... when you can let a feeling exist while you feel sad, angry, hungry, frustrated, desperate.
8. .... when you can practice selflessness while you feel most selfish.
9. ..... when you can perceive cosmos (order) while you experience chaos (disorder).
10. ..... when your mind can be creative while you experience the most challenging and negative feelings.
and when you can match up any of the above.

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How do I make sure I achieve Personal Growth?
"Experience is not what happens to you.
It is what you do with what happens to you."

Aldous Huxley

When challenging or difficult things happen, some people (especially emotionally oversensitive people) tend to "drown" in overwhelming emotions. However, the purpose of challenging or negative emotions is not for a person to "drown" but to grow.

Emotions communicate through dream images.
While using the Emotions software, you can use the 3 dream images below to help you visualize where you are emotionally (deep sea diving, on the surface, or high on a wave), what to do, and what growth you want to experience.

To achieve personal growth........
dare the depths of the deep sea,
exist in the moment,
and dare to master the highest wave.
Ocean is rich with abundant life, creativity, and growth
Ocean is limitless, vast, some ripples
Ocean is rich with energy, movement
Darkness/Depth = The unknown, hidden, the mystery, fear, survival, undiscovered potential, forgotten memories, unconscious, denial, avoidance, grief, anguish, submersion of emotions, flight .

The Surface = beauty, flow of water, freedom, release, tranquility, peace, consciousness, clarity, solitude. Wave = powerful, energetic, overwhelming, dramatic, dangerous, frightening,
Where you are: This is the place for your darkest, deepest, most painful, and most negative feelings.

Tears, trouble breathing, panic, internal conflict, having the feeling of being weighed down symbolize that you are here.
This is the place for your most tranquil, spiritual, and playful feelings.

You might experience just a soft trickle of emotions, a freedom of emotional expression, a calm release of emotions, an expansion of feelings, intuition, natural wisdom, wholeness, spirituality, a balance of opposites, wisdom, independence, and a vision.
This is the place for your most overwhelming, energetic, fast-moving, threatening, frightening, and overflowing feelings.

Feeling dizzy, overwhelmed, drained, angry, external conflict with someone/something symbolize that you are here.
What to do:

1. Breathe consciously

2. Do steps 1 and 2
in the Emotions software.

After step 2, enjoy where you are now. Look around!
Just like a diver, breathing consciously and correctly is the most important skill.

Just like a diver, you can use a mask to protect yourself from your environment. Not everyone has to see how you feel. It is a mask that you can take off when you return to the surface.

Just like a diver, know that what weighs you down are weights that have a purpose. Without them you would not be able to explore the depths of your feelings.

Most importantly, just like a diver, know that you are in the depths of the ocean (feeling negative emotions) because here you can explore and discover something about the depths of human emotions.

Enjoy the serenity of the moment!

This is a calm time to practice:

a. the art of breathing
b. your self-expression,
c. your intellect
d. your self-improvement
e. your magical consciousness
f. your fulfillment
g. your playfulness
h. your relaxation
i. your self-discipline
j. your selflessness

This is a great time to enjoy looking again at the last step in the Emotions software, to do some debriefing (what worked, what didn't work), and to to expand your growth and creativity.

Just like a surfer, breathing consciously and correctly is the most important skill.

Just like a surfer, if you practiced the skill of surfing (having practiced & internalized the Emotions software) enables you to tackle the tallest, fastest and most challenging wave.

Just like a surfer, breathe and relax and follow the flow of the wave. Try not to force anything.

Just like a surfer communicates to lifeguards, let someone know if you need help!

Most importantly, just like a surfer,
know that you are one with the power of nature and that you are here because you can experience and feel the power of nature and the heights of human emotions.
What experience & growth you want to achieve:

Do step 3 in your Emotions software.

Ask yourself:

What hidden things am I ready to discover, explore, face?

What skills, undiscovered creativity, resources, potential, have I not yet brought to the surface?

In step 3 of your Emotions software try to bring up different items to the surface until you experience the feeling of "growth".
Ask yourself:

Am I able to use step 1 and 2 of the Emotions software when I need it most?

Am I able to use my most challenging and negative feeling for personal growth and creativity?

Ask yourself:

What hidden energy, growth, and power am I ready to find?

What heights of human emotions can I draw out of my experience?

In step 3 of your Emotions software try to create something that will enable others to also feel those emotions.

Note: If the same negative or challenging feeling keeps reappearing but you are not experiencing growth, it might be an indicator that you might not be in the place where you think you are. Below are some examples and techniques.

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Additional Emotions Software Techniques
Technique #1: Hear, see, touch, feel --- the energy of the masters.

You can actually witness on which level (deep sea, surface, wave) an artist's work originated. Listening to Beethoven, reading the poems of Emily Dickinson, observing Van Gogh's painting, or reading some of Gandhi's writings are only a few examples.

What to do:
While you listen to, look at, or read a creative artist's work, try to determine whether the piece of art was inspired by the artist's emotional journey into the depth of the ocean, the calm surface of the sea, or the heights of a powerful wave. Observing the masters might give you some additional ideas for your last step in the Emotions software.

Technique #2: Hear, see, touch, feel --- the energy around you.

You can also witness on which level the people around you are. Even though this is a simple perspective of human emotions, it is a fun one (as long as you are on the surface and calm). It is also an excellent exercise in empathy.

What to do:
When someone in your family, a friend, or an acquaintance walks through your door, observe that person's body language, sounds, and energy. Sometimes you can clearly see someone being in the depths of the sea (weighed down, tired, exhausted), calm and open (on the surface of the ocean), or extremely energetic, dramatic, and powerful. You can also apply those observational skills while waiting in line at the grocery story (observe a mother and a toddler with a tantrum), during main traffic hours, or during sports events.

Technique #3: hear, see, touch, feel --- the energy inside of you.

You can also practice your observational skill about yourself. You will notice it reflects the 10 personal growth signs described on the top of this website page.

What to do:
Whenever you have a chance, ask yourself.... on what level of the ocean am I? is my energy weighed down (a little or a lot), calm, or fast-moving and active? When in need (or even just for fun), use the 3 steps of the Emotions software. If you have learned the Emotions software skills, you can use it anywhere and at any time.

Technique #4: Beware of being tired or hungry!

This seems to be a most obvious state that unfortunate many miss. Being tired or hungry can act as weights that weigh you down and pull you deeper into depths.

What to do:
Use being tired or hungry first in your step 1 and 2 of your Emotions software. You can also use the steps for anyone else around you, especially if you are dealing with children. It will make all the difference.

Technique #5: Talking about the same topic.

Since you are neither aware of any tears or any powerful or overwhelming feeling, you consider yourself to be emotionally on the surface of the ocean. You have done step 3 of the Emotions software and experienced creativity but yet you continue to talk about the same topic to others and it bothers you.

What to do:
Decide to go for a dive into the depths of the deep sea. For step 1 and 2 in the Emotions software use "I don't know". For step 3, begin writing about the subject that you keep bringing up. In your writing (like a diver), shine the light into every cave, under rocks, between sea creatures. Continue to write until you feel you have explored every corner of the deep sea. Continue your writing until you have discovered some treasure in the depths of the ocean that will enable you to understand your topic on a deeper level. Continue to write whenever you have the time until you feel that you do not need to talk about the topic anymore to someone else. (Unless you want to share what you discovered).

Technique #6: To talk or not to talk --- and with whom.

Whenever you talk to someone, notice if after the conversation you fell weighed down, calm, or lively. Being aware of how "talking" affects you, assists you in your choices for the last step of the Emotions software.

What to do:
Distinguish to whom or with whom you are talking. Talking to a man will mostly likely get you some advice or problem solving solution response. This is great if you are 'frustrated, angry, annoyed, etc.' because you have car trouble or another problem that needs fixing. If you are not looking for a solution or problem solving answer though, your husband, boyfriend, or other man might not be the right person to talk to and you might feel weighed down afterwards.

Talking to a friend might get you into a situation where you end up having to listen to his/her anger, sadness, annoyance, or frustration. If you feel you can listen, that is great, but if you need someone that listens to you, then being able to know what friend to talk to is helpful.

Talking to a family member, relative, neighbor, acquaintance, friend, teacher, or professor can make a big difference. It has really helped to distinguish how close someone is. Sometimes it is better to talk to someone who is emotionally more distant than someone close.

Remember that your emotion is a catalyst for growth. Whether or not the "talking" action leads to growth or not is a great way to determine whether one chose the right conversation partner. Ask yourself while you are listening to someone, "Does this conversation contribute to my growth?" If you have a chance to have a session with a psychologist or therapist, use the same criteria. Does this session lead to my personal growth? Surprisingly, some software users have found that some sessions were a waste of time and moved on to another therapist. Finding the right person to talk to for your personal growth can be a trial and error process. Don't give up using the "talking" action as the third step in your Emotions software. Keep your notes that the Emotions Journal generates for you for future reference. Those notes are really helpful and actually fun to read later on. If you learn that the first person that you talked to did not contribute to any growth, try another person. If the second person does not help either, try again. Sometimes it takes time to learn which person is the best person to talk to for different emotions. Remember that your goal is personal growth.

Techniques #7: Personification of Feelings. (Coming Soon)

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Tips from our Emotions Software Users
Below are some Tips from our Software Users:

User Tip #1: Remember the purpose of the program is personal growth, not just feeling better!

Recently, my friend's father died. I used the program because I was worried about my friend. Even though I always felt happy after completing the steps in the program, the feeling of being "worried" about my friend continued to come up.

After going through the program for the fourth time for the same feeling of "worry", I finally realized what was missing.
I wasn't turning my feeling of "worry" into personal growth.

The next time my feeling of worry came up, I knew what to focus on. I went through the program again, and sure enough, this time I ended up writing about me and my relationship with death- a topic I didn't know that I was ready to face before.

User Tip #2: Don't click through the program, DO each step of the program.

When I first purchased the program and clicked through it, I thought, "well, this is easy and I already know what I'll pick in the end. ---Think again--- As it happens, just a few days later, I missed my dental appointment. I never miss appointments and I kept beating myself up over it. I felt horrible!

Since I felt so miserable about missing my appointment, I thought I'd try the program. I had already purchased it and what harm could it do. This time, instead of clicking through it to the end, I did each step.

How awesome! In less than 24 hours of my missed appointment I not only felt wonderful but also discovered what I could do in a situation like that. I now keep Aldous Huxley's quote about "experience is...what you do with what happens to you" on my bathroom mirror.

User Tip #3: Read the technique about "Talking"

Before using the Emotions software, I would tend to share my happiness, frustration, anger, or annoyance with anyone who happened to be there- my barber, mailman, my landlord, my neighbor, even my cashier at the local supermarket. I must have driven them crazy.

I read the technique number 6 in the User Guide online and used it in my software. This changed so much and I am actually looking forward now to those challenging feelings. I don't think I have ever been that creative in my life.

User Tip #4: Learning to laugh...

I never thought that I could actually find humor and laughter while I feel something negative. But the Emotions software taught me to understand my emotions so much better. That is - at least for me- personal growth!

If you would like to share some interesting user tip, please e-mail it to us at [email protected] Please give your tip a short title and try to write 150 words or less.

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What is the difference
between an emotionally oversensitive person and emotionally disabled person?
Emotional Disability Emotionally Oversensitive Person
An emotional disability may include, but is not limited to, one or more of the following conditions:

• A tendency to develop physical symptoms or fears associated with personal or school problems

• A general pervasive mood of unhappiness or depression

• An inability to learn that cannot be explained by intellectual, sensory, or health factors

• An inability to build or maintain satisfactory interpersonal relationships

• Inappropriate behaviors or feelings under normal circumstances

• Hyperactivity (short attention span, impulsiveness)

• Aggression/self-injurious behavior (acting out, fighting)

• Withdrawal (failure to initiate interaction with others, retreat from exchanges of social
interaction, excessive fear or anxiety)

• Immaturity (inappropriate crying, temper tantrums, poor coping skills)

• Learning difficulties (academically performing below grade level)

Many of the above symptoms mimic the symptoms of children with Dyslexia or ADD. However, while
children with Dyslexia display highly perceptual abilities and children with ADD display highly versatile energetic abilities, children with ED display highly emotional abilities.

An emotionally oversensitive person is able to feel the depths and heights of human emotions more intensely than another person.

Ideally, those emotions result in a creative outpouring and tremendous personal growth.

Finding a balance between one's art and one's social relationships can be a challenge since both require time and energy.

It is estimated that 1 out of 5 people is an emotionally oversensitive person or emotionally sensitive person. Look at 5 people around you. The numbers might be even higher.

Without learning the skill of how to deal with being an oversensitive person, many people experience the symptoms listed under the Emotional Disability category to the left.
Source: Our What's the Deal With Learning Disability eBook

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